Traumas, personal, cultural, and intergenerational, are stored in our psyche, emotions, soul and body, and influence, unconsciously, how we perceive and react to all experiences.
The increased presence of a diminished capacity for intimate, romantic relationships are based on: big T and small T personal trauma; intergenerational trauma; and the family of origins capacity for and style of intimacy.
Big T trauma: A divorce in the family, a parent that is abusive, drug abuse, living in a war zone or some other significant exposure to prolonged traumatic settings or incidents
Small T trauma: Experiencing a deep humiliation in adolescence, being made to feel less than by peers, parents or family members…
Intergenerational trauma: The trauma of preceding generations materially impacts your perceptions and experiences
Family of origins: A families style of and capacity for intimacy will imprint on the individual and affect the patterns of future relationships