Updated: Dec 16, 2018
Compassion, romantic, political - pick your exhaustion. They build up inside of us, fraying the edges of sanity until--enough is enough, the game isn't worth the candle. A systemic look at the anatomy of exhaustion is critical to defeating its insidious effects.
We are constantly bombarded by stimulus that, overtime, exhausts us. Whether caring for a loved one who is incapacitated, remaining politically engaged, or experiencing one failed relationship after another - there reaches a point where we simply become exhausted.
Relationship exhaustion: The game isn’t worth the candle. We can’t do it anymore. It’s too hard to compromise, negotiate , sacrifice, be hurt or rejected, or be put into a corner. This isn’t the “one” and this isn’t the “right” relationship. The partner is always the same, even though they may seem different at first. And so are we. We have danced ourselves solo.
Understanding triggers and traumas mitigates the impact of the exhaustions. To disrupt exhaustive cycles, we must be proactively aware of what our traumas and triggers are.